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Premarital counseling can help you emotionally prepare for marriage and ensure that your marriage starts on the best possible footing. Premarital counseling often encourages couples to consider a wide range of topics related to marriage, including:
- Roles in marriage
- Children and parenting
- Beliefs and values
- Family relationships
- Sex and sexuality
- Conflict resolution
- Expectations in marriage
These are appropriate topics that couples preparing for marriage need to be in dialogue about, and discussing them with a counselor can be helpful. Couples can learn more about their differing values, expectations, and areas of potential conflict. Unfortunately, so often premarital counseling goes only this far, which isn’t far enough. Relationships don’t get in trouble because a couple hasn’t talked about one or more of these topics. They get in trouble because couples don’t know how to navigate the disagreements that inevitably comes up when they do talk about them.
Marriages don’t end because of finances, parenting, sex, or any of the topics usually discussed in premarital counseling. Relationships end because couples can’t openly talk about the feelings, hopes, and disappointments associated with these concerns. It’s not about what you talk about. It’s about how. So how can premarital counseling help you talk about the ‘how’?
A Conscious Relationship Is Vital to a Healthy Marriage
Each of us has a way of being in close relationships that we learned in our families growing up. You can’t help but relate to your future spouse using the only “relational pattern” or “emotional blueprint” that you have, especially during conflicts and disagreements. In premarital counseling, I help couples talk about their relational patterns by considering with them their experiences of being in relationship growing up and how that influences their way of being with each other.
Maybe you and your partner haven’t had many arguments or conflicts, a common experience with couples getting ready for marriage. After all, the “honeymoon phase” is aptly named. Disagreements will come, though, and with premarital counseling, your marriage can be ready.
Let’s Talk – Set Up Your Free Consultation
If you’re reading this, you’re considering premarital therapy. The next step is to sit down with me and give it try, which might mean talking about some fears or questions you may have, especially if you’re new the process of therapy. During a free 15-minute consultation, I’ll attempt to answer all of your questions about myself and how we might work together, including concerns about the fee and using your insurance policy.
It would be a privilege for me to meet with you and begin to understand your present concerns. I serve the communities of Pasadena, Sierra Madre, Monrovia, Arcadia, Duarte, and Ventura. Please call me at (626) 275-4607 or email me at email@example.com to schedule your initial session or a free 15-minute consultation, or write me a message using the form below.